Grieving for you
At the end of the first year of being without you, I marvelled that I was still standing. I was exhausted from the effort. I felt that everyone else had moved on, except for my Mum of course, who appeared to be lost to me, and to her Grandchildren, and to herself. That said, there was something about reaching the ‘one year anniversary of your death’ that showed me that I could continue to move through life regardless of my sadness and suffering. We had continued to settle in to the house we had moved into only a few months before your death, we had painted the walls and planted up the garden. New schools had been chosen for the boys. We had carried on. Some of the saddest times came when the milestones in our lives occurred, like the boys starting their new schools, and you were no longer there to share in those moments. However, a fter twelve months of floundering, of experiencing feelings that presented themselves from within me in either glorious technicolour,